Thursday, April 10, 2014

Playroom Dreams {A place to play and learn}

For now, our playroom is in what was intended as our dining room. We do have space upstairs for a playroom if we did away with our guest room, but placing D's playroom where it is has two advantages:

1. We still have room for guest(s) [ie family from out of town]
2. D is much easier to watch downstairs where I can also do a few chores
3. It is open, but we were able to enclose with gates for a safe place for him to play (without the dogs interrupting)

Playroom Now






Having the playroom in the dining room does present a few design issues. For one, our dining room is completely open to the front door so lots of toys = messy unwelcoming entryway. This is not okay since the entryway is supposed to the the spot people see when they come in that makes them want to kick off their shoes and stay awhile.

As you can see from the photos above, many of the toys are just lined up around the room or are in large bags. The canvas bag with the "Moose" came from Home Goods, the grey felt bag from Target and the Lion chair from Costco.

Secondly, we have a baby gate to keep Declan separate from our two dogs while he is playing. This, along with the entry dresser causes a tunnel effect and really makes getting in and out of the front door a challenge at times.

So, here is what I envision for this space to help alleviate some of these issues:

A. Cameron Storage Wall {Shelving/Storage}and IKEA Expedit Shelf {IKEA Expedit} (this will be moved to his big boy room at some point)
B. Seating Floor Pillow/Poufs {Pillow} {Poufs} {Adult Seating} {Adult Seating/Extra Guest Bed}
C. Table{Table and Chairs}
D. Wall Art - envisioning world maps and bright art
E. Bins - you have to keep things organized - to an extent {Bins}
F. Flooring {Floor Tiles} {Carpet Tiles}
G. Organization for Learning
H. {Possibly} Barn Doors {Barn Doors}
I.   Accessories {Globes}


We don't want anything too permanent on the walls since this room will at some point become a dining room again. So, here it is...my VISION.




A  Container Store Smart Store System {Container Store}
B  IKEA Raskog Rolling Cart {Art Cart}
C  IKEA Knappa Pendant Light {Current Lighting} **Note: We got this same fixture at Lowe's
D  DIY Canvas Rug {Rug}
E  DIY or Buy Floor Pouf {Land of Nod} {DIY}
F  Pillows {Serina and Lily} and {Land of Nod "D"} or {Serina and Lily Initial Pillow} Pottery           Barn also has some Initial Pillows
G  IKEA Latt Children's Table and Chairs {Table and Chairs}
H  Pottery Barn or Ballard Designs {Comfort Swivel Rocker} or {Sleeper Chair}
I   Pottery Barn Cameron Shelving {Cameron Creativity Center}
J  Chalkboard for Daily/Weekly Scripture and Map Wall Art {USA Wall Art}
K DIY Book Storage and Target Tote Storage {2Sisters2Cities Rolling Cart} {Canvas Basket Navy}

If you went to all of these links and added up the costs, it is WAY more than we can afford. But, there is hope! Here is how we have and will cut costs.

  • I have always LOVED the IKEA cart, but I have a two tier rolling cart from a flea market $30 that I can spruce up a bit and use as an art cart. 
  • DIY Floor Pillows - we were given 3 very large pillows from a friend who was moving back overseas. We have carted these burgundy pillows from state to state and apartment to apartment and somehow they survived the move to our current home. They will be slipcovered and used as floor pillows {I have cute fabric from IKEA I have had for a while}
  • Wall Storage Unit - If you haven't checked out Ana White, you should! Gary and I are in the process of building this unit now (he more building and me more painting I should say) {Ana White}
  • Seating - We were given a glider and ottamen for the nursery that will most likely be reupholstered again and find its way into this space. I will save for a swivel recliner for the next baby (fingers crossed) {Decorating the Nursery for Adoption}
  • The art will be DIY for sure. I have some ideas for artwork that I will paint and I love the idea of the state map on canvas - pretty easy DIY project. 
  • Flooring - We already have the rubber interlocking tiles down so those will stay for the meantime, but if the playroom is ever moved upstairs to a carpeted area, there will also be an area rug added to protect the carpet
  • Save, save, save!! Wipes containers, plastic or metal formula container, baby food plastic containers with tops -- all of these make great art supply containers. 
  • I would also LOVE to have barn doors over this opening to the playroom, but the hanging equipment is expensive. If we stay in this house for the long haul, we will be doing this using farm supplies and building the doors ourselves to save money. 

So there you have it! As soon as the shelving is built and painted and finds its way into the space, I will get it all organized for the unveiling!! Hopefully this will be sooner than later, but we lead the busy lives of working parents of a toddler so..... 

New Fab Playroom Coming Soon! I will add the link here when it is finished. 

Monday, March 31, 2014

Minimalist Living: Social Media and Internet Downplay {ie Pinterest}

Having a child really makes you want to simplify and get back to the basics of life - those things that really matter. Before Declan, I did have time to waste on social media. It was my time to wind down after a long day. Of course, I still had laundry and cooking and dishes, but not nearly as much as I do now!!!

After reading about the Minimalist lifestyle, I began to clear out and purge our belongings {Minimalist Living: The Closet} and {Minimalist Living: Books}. That was very therapeutic, but that only helped purge things. I needed to make more time as well. I also felt the desire to begin really fostering close friendships with people who had children Declan's age and could help support me in this new role as mother. 

It all started with a book lent to me by a neighbor - Snow Flower and the Secret Fan by Lisa See. My neighbor is very interested in Chinese culture and reads novels based with an Asian setting and storyline. Being married to a Chinese man, I was intrigued.

A Little Background

One particular theme of the book that stood out to me was the theme of friendship. In the book, daughters were still matched to their future husbands through the use of a matchmaker. Women would then, following Chinese culture, MARRY INTO THEIR NEW HUSBAND'S FAMILY. They would leave the natal or family home of their childhood and would live with their husband's family. They would not see their birth families until big holidays. This was quite a lonely life for these women because they were going to a new place and living with a family they did not know. They were leaving everything familiar behind. {This is much like the lives of many women today - lonely}

But, these women did find a way to happiness. The matchmaker would also match the young girls early on with a "sworn Sister" or "sister for life". In Chinese, the term is Laotong. These "sisters" were to serve as a support for each other through life's hardships and everything they would be facing. Sisters were matched based on birthday, family status, size of bound feet, etc. This was a match that was to never be broken.

True Friendships (as opposed to FB friendships)

From this book, I took the idea of such a deep friendship to heart. Yes, many of us have hundreds is not thousands of "friends" on FB and Instagram and Pinterest etc...., but how many TRUE "Lao Tong" relationships do we as women truly have? Women need these deep relationships. We need other women who can be there through thick and thin and through all of life's ups and downs. People who will truly share in our joys and sorrows. Women who will be there no matter the distance or time apart. You know the friends I am speaking of (hopefully you have been so lucky) - the friends we have that we can just visit with or talk on the phone to and just pick up where we left off even after a long period of time.

Being a woman is hard! Being a mother is hard! We as women are our own worst critics and sometimes we are each others worst critics!!

My husband and I have both been very lucky in friendships of this kind. I have several friends who are always there for me whether we see each other very often or not. {Nora, Holly and Regan I love you all!!!} My husband has one friend, John, who he can call on at any time even though there is distance between them.

With the beginning of social media, I believe true friendships are falling to the waste side. True friendships that are fostered through time spent together. I am as guilty as the next person about not calling people or sending cards on their birthday since I can wish them a Happy Birthday on FB - I am even reminded by FB when to do this!!

FB Purge 

So, my FB purge began. I have recently felt convicted that my time is being wasted way too much on FB and Pinterest. I won't cancel either because they do provide a way for me to show photos of Declan to out of town family and Pinterest does help with research for my business projects. But, I did began to delete a lot of "friends" so I wouldn't have so many things jumping out at me when I log in to just post a photo which in turn ends up being an hour long viewing of what everyone is doing!!

I believe there are people who are brought into our lives for a season when we need them most. All friendships are not going to be these LaoTong types of friendships. But, we should all strive to have at least one person in our life that is our LaoTong - someone who we can spend time with and someone we can talk to and someone who will support us. Someone who will not judge. Someone who will be there for us no matter what is going on or what is not going on. This takes effort on the part of both people.

My friends were there for me through our struggles with infertility even though both of them had beautiful children already. They were there when I had my appointments and they were there when our IVF failed. They were there to support us through our adoption and they are still there to provide deep friendships for our son and us as we travel this hard road through parenthood.

As a Christian, these true friendships are Biblical. Forming friendships based on commonalities of belief and life stages is important. You need someone who will give you wise counsel when you need it. You can go to the following passages to read about what the Bible says about friendships:


  • Proverbs 27:17 Friends can help you stay strong 
  • Proverbs 12:26 Be careful in choosing friends
  • Proverbs 18:24 True friendships
  • Ecclesiastes 4:9 Laboring together
  • Proverbs 17:17 Friendship is lasting 
Don't get me wrong, FB has its value. FB can also take our time when we should be focusing on much more important things in life. 

My challenge to you today is to put down the phone, log out of the computer and spend time doing something wonderful with a true friend. Whether it be lunch or time at the park with your kids or just talking on the phone. Spend some time fostering those relationships. 

If you have any more verses on friendship, feel free to post them in the comment section!! 



Monday, March 24, 2014

Meaningful Play: Tools and Resources

This post will be simple and to the point and will include resources and tools to help your infant/toddler learn. I will focus on the one year stage since that is where Declan happens to be right now.

Special NOTE: I am not the mom who thinks her son is the smartest on the block or even should be the smartest on the block. These resources are only suggestions to help enhance meaningful play with your child. Exposure is the main idea behind introducing any ABCs or numbers at this point. Repetition is key, but you can model ideas for your child as well just in daily routines. It also is important to remember that we are dealing with young children - they are sponges at this age, but they also need to burn off energy!! Down time and just fun time is important. Routine is also important to children at this stage. So, having a "lesson" time each day is fine as long as it is still fun. Let your child lead - if he isn't into putting pom poms into the egg carton that day, move to something else.  

This is just a list. Remember my philosophy when it comes to buying anything -  always hunt at garage sales, secondhand stores (our area has a store called Kid to Kid with gently used clothing and toys), and get CREATIVE in what you can use that you already have on hand.

Don't spend a ton of money on items for your child to learn. You will be amazed at what they will pick up without any toys at all just from their observations.
   

Online Resources for lesson ideas (I will add to this list as I find things):

  • www.babycenter.com
  • www.healthychildren.org
  • http://www.1plus1plus1equals1.net/ {Lesson Plans and Activities + Resources}
  • Learning Videos: abcmouse.com 

Things to Collect:

  • Paper towel/toilet paper rolls
  • Egg Cartons
  • Containers such as wipes containers and plastic snack containers {A friend even saved these and created her son's own little bowling set}These are also great to make bean shakers or rain sticks using beans or rice (music is important as well and developing rhythm).  

  • Beads 
  • Buttons (save from clothing you buy)
  • Tops to food squeeze pouches like those from Plum Organics or GoGoSqueez Applesauce (great colors and can serve as counters for patterns) You are already buying them possibly so why buy additional colored counters. A word of caution - watch children carefully who still put things in their mouth. 
  • {Tops To Save}
  • Containers from food like sour cream etc. to hold items (cheaper way to do this)
  • Beans/pasta
  • String
  • Ribbon
  • Scraps of felt or cloth

Toys (online and local resources):

Declan is at the age now (16 months) where he loves to stack things. He also is beginning to enjoy puzzles and he enjoys putting tops on containers and putting items into containers. He is also really into construction vehicles and trucks of any kind. Many of these toys can serve his interest long past 16 months even though some are labeled as 2+. 


Melissa and Doug
{These toys help with hand/eye coordination and physical manipulation of items- gross motor skills as well as learning shapes, colors and numbers}

Melissa and Doug 
A. Stacking Cars Baby & Toddler Toy $12.99
B. Caterpillar Gears Toddler Toy $9.99
C. First Bead Maze $14.99
D. Geometric Stacker Toy Toddler $16.99
E. Shape Sorting Cube Classic Toy $14.99
F. Classic ABC Block Cart $14.99
G. Large Shapes Jumbo Knob Puzzle - 8 Pieces $19.99
H. See Inside Numbers Peg Puzzle - 10 Pieces $7.99
I. Vehicles Jumbo Knob Puzzle - 8 pieces $19.99




**M&D also has some great puzzles that make sounds when the pieces are placed. Declan LOVES his animal noise puzzle he received for his birthday!! {Zoo Animals Sound Puzzle}

IKEA **Great place to check first along with garage sales**
{These toys help with gross motor skills, learning shapes and imaginative play}
    IKEA





A. Mula Stacking Rings $5.99
B. Mula Crane with Blocks $14.99
C. Mula Bead Roller Coaster
D. Mula Stack & Nest Cups $2.99
E. Mula 24 Building Blocks with Wagon $7.99
F. Mula Toy Hammering Block $5.99
G. Latsas 11-Piece Shopping Basket Set $7.99
H. Duktig 14-piece Vegetable Set $7.99
I. Duktig 9-piece Fruit Set $7.99

       




Other Resources
  • Amazon.com (we are members of Prime which helps save on a variety of kids' items as well as downloadable videos for Declan to watch on our Roku - {Little Pim Language Videos}
        Christmas Present via Amazon.com: 
{Parum Parum Pum Drum - Lime}
  • Ross (or other discount stores)
I recently snagged these two toys at our local ROSS: 

Melissa and Doug Stack and Sort Board (teaches shapes, colors, patterns, coordination) Regularly $9.99 - Purchased for $6.99.

My First Construction Set by FirstLearning.com (Teaches Hand/Eye Coordination, Building Skills, Vehicle names- cement truck, dump truck, gasoline truck, front end loader) Purchased for $7.99. 


  • Dollar Tree (or other dollar stores)
  • Spielgaben "Smarter Play, Smarter Child" {More Expensive Option created for homeschoolers} 
  • Oriental Trading Company 
         - Cool Craft Trays {Tot Trays via 1+1+1=1 Blog}
Oriental Trading Company $10.50/6


Tools (for crafts and learning):
  • Oriental Trading {Follow Websites Notes for Age Appropriateness of Foam Items for Choking Hazards}
         - Wiggly Eyes for crafts {Dollar Store or Walmart}
         - Pom Poms {Dollar Store or Walmart}
         - Pipe Cleaners {Can also be found at the local dollar store}
         - Foam Shapes and Foam Sticky Back Letters {Foam Letters} {5" Foam Letters}
         - My Book of Numbers Thumbprint Craft Set {Make a Number Book}
         - Tissue Paper and Craft Paper
         - Kitchen Tongs to pick things up {We bought these at Bed, Bath and Beyond for our    
           kitchen, but you can purchase them at Amazon.com or Wayfair.com {Tongs Set of 3} for              $12.70.



  • IKEA
        -Mala Chalk $1.99/24 pack
        -Drawing Paper Roll $4.99
        -Mala Tabletop Paper Roll Holder $6.99
        -Ice Trays (or at the dollar store)
     

Local Resources:

  • The School Box Teacher Store
  • Learning Express Toys 
  • Target
  • Walmart
  • Dollar Store 

I always try to buy toys that are educational as well as fun. And, I try to buy toys not based on age, but on how long Declan will be able to play with the toy and how many things it can teach. For example, he isn't going to be learning his ABC's anytime soon, but he can pull the Melissa and Doug cart behind him and can use the blocks to build towers.


Wonderful Addition I happened on toda: Dwell Studio

I have always LOVED Dwell Studio patterns and home items, but these are so cute!!! Meaningful play and imaginative play!!

{Wooden Play Sets} On Sale Now for $15.99 Regularly $36.00.

{Woodland Creative Play Set}

{Skyline Creative Set}